Younger people get very upset when older people tell them they are going through a phase. Let me, as one of the older people here, explain why we say that. We know that we ourselves have had many, many phases in our lives. We know that, like mistakes, is how we learn. I, as I have discussed before, went through an Archeological Art History Phase. That doesn’t mean that that time spent was meaningless, or stupid. I lived it, loved it, learned from it. It became a part of who I am today. It gave me a way of looking at things that I would not have had without it.
Going through a phase is not a bad thing. It is a good thing. It is just something that you have to work through to find your way to where you need to be. I went though an agnostic phase. I went through a “I never want children” phase. I have been through many phases that I see people around me going through and recognize them as such. With this life experience perspective, I also recognize that I am currently going through a couple of phases right now. I feel like they are permanent, “who I am” sort of things, but I know in my heart that that ain’t so. A phase is merely a stage in life. We would find it really strange if an adult woman only wanted to play with dolls all day. We change. We grow. We go through phases.
So, voice of experience speaking, the next time someone tells you that you are going through a phase, don’t get upset. It is not a bad thing.
Peace be with you.